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4th Step Question!!



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    Anonymous

    Thank you CarolD and TigerLili!!

    I have been in and out of AA for the last 2 years and have had a few sponsors but kept picking up a drink. thought i would just start getting it all down on paper I am now at step 3 willing to move to the next step. as i understand it step 4 is about getting all the facts down on paper so that is what i thought i would do, i am listening to Joe and Charlie BB study and following there worksheets. I have a close friend that has been helping me though all this, he does not attend AA but goes to church, i was thinking of talking to him at step 5!! not sure if i am going about this the right way!! had a lot of conflicts with people in AA, small town.



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    Anonymous

    The Steps are really designed to be gone through with a sponsor. I think it would be easy to get off track or misunderstand the intent if you do it on your own, but that’s probably better than not doing it at all. Is there an older, sober member you would feel comfortable about approaching even as a temporary sponsor to get you through the Steps? I found Step 4 confusing and needed a lot of help from my sponsor to get it done. I did not do step 5 with my sponsor for various reasons.

    There will always be conflicts with people in AA. We can be overly sensitive in early recovery, especially if we haven’t done the Steps with a sponsor, plus other AA’s can be self-righteous, judgemental etc, so the potential for conflict is certainly there. I’m fortunate to live in a city and there are dozens of meetings every day, but believe me when I tell you I see the same people wherever I go and I have certainly had my conflicts with a lot of them. I have left meetings over resentments with other members, and even picked up over resentments within AA. The more sobriety you get under your belt the less you’ll get into conflicts with people, and when you do, you’ll probably be able to resolve it or at least not develop a lasting resentment over it.

    I strongly suggest getting a sponsor, even a temporary one as I said, and working through the Steps QUICKLY. There is no need to spend months, or even weeks, on each one.



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    jacque
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    @Fonzie 2946484 wrote:

    Thank you CarolD and TigerLili!!

    I have been in and out of AA for the last 2 years and have had a few sponsors but kept picking up a drink. thought i would just start getting it all down on paper I am now at step 3 willing to move to the next step. as i understand it step 4 is about getting all the facts down on paper so that is what i thought i would do, i am listening to Joe and Charlie BB study and following there worksheets. I have a close friend that has been helping me though all this, he does not attend AA but goes to church, i was thinking of talking to him at step 5!! not sure if i am going about this the right way!! had a lot of conflicts with people in AA, small town.

    Doing the work in spite of the hangups is pretty cool…….

    First inventory…. I’d write em down if they come into your head. Now, I still like to write ’em down but my sponsor is advising me that they’re making my inventories too lengthy and full of meaningless stuff……he want them shorter and more concise from me. ….I’m not sure I agree but, I’m not in charge anymore. lol 😉



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