Thank you all :ghug I also wanted to tell you all how healing it was for me when talking to my son. I grew up with an alcoholic mother who quit drinking when I was 21 but has never been in recovery, made amends or really spoken of it again. If I ever bring things up with her I can see the guilt and blame in her eyes and she cries. So I got to say to my son all the things I wish had been said to me. And I got to tell him that he is always welcome to talk to me about any of it at any time, if he feels the need. I told him that is part of my recovery, to face my past today and be open to hearing what others need to say. It felt so good to be that Mom, that woman today.
From the 12×12 “An honest for regret for harms done, a genuine gratitude for blessings received, and a willingness to try for better things tomorrow will be the permanent assets we shall seek.”