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- April 3, 2017 at 7:16 pm #4911187
Welcome to 12 Step National Meetings lovely08!
This is the NA step 1 forum. Here we discuss the 12 Steps of NA. There are many different forums here where you can discuss a variety of topics on a wide variety of issues. Do yourself a favor and surf the site…I’m sure you’ll find an appropriate forum for specific relationship stuff. But since you’re here I’ll share how the 1st Step of NA has helped me with something similar to what you’ve mentioned.
NA Step One: “We admitted we were powerless over our addiction and our lives had become unmanageable.”
Since the disease of addiction affects every area of my life…including relationships…it helps me to look at how I may be obsessive, compulsive or self-centered in areas other than drug use. Not only am I powerless over my disease, I’m powerless over people as well. I cannot control their thinking or their behavior and whenever I’m in denial of this fact, I make my life unmanageable. Placing unrealistic expectations on myself or others keeps me in a state of anger or resentment…bottom line is that when I see something for what it is (reality), I can either accept it, deny it exists or do something different about myself. Although I may be powerless over other people, I’m not powerless over my decisions. If I stay in a relationship that isn’t healthy I need to look at why I stay and what I need to do to make my life better instead of placing fault. Just like I had to get honest with myself about my drug use in the 1st Step…I also have to get honest about my relationships. Through honesty I can surrender to win.
As a result of the 12 steps, I am happy, joyous and free.April 4, 2017 at 5:03 am #4911188
yeah…I remember some of those same situations. I got better with the help of NA members. I found as many meetings as I could find and tried them all. ( I still attend regularly)
Taking the steps in the program helped me find freedom from active addiction. There are other benefits too…but the biggie is that I have lost the desire to use drugs and I enjoy feeling love today. Thank you NA!
Welcome, lovely08 and Isola!
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