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- June 21, 2017 at 3:47 am #3753999
On the thread about keeping alcohol in the house I noticed that whether we said yes or no we were all very aware of alcohol in ours environments. This led me to something I have noticed about myself since getting sober.
I watch other people drink. Even strangers on the train. Its not envy but worry that motivates me. I’m always worried people have a drinking problem when they drink 2 beers on the 45 minute train ride home…after all that’s what I did.
Sometimes I can smell it on someone…I worry about them too.
Friends might make throw away comments about drinking episodes….and I worry.
Am I the only one?June 21, 2017 at 4:02 am #4968756
I am definitely much more aware of others drinking. I don’t think it is my place to guess/determine if someone has a problem… I am not a doc and I can’t know the sum total of another’s relationship with alcohol. Still, having finally accepted the reality of my situation after spending many years in denial, telling myself it was no big deal to drink heavily every night, I do find it a bit disconcerting to watch others do what I did… Case in point, much like your experience on the train I saw someone almost miss a flight at the airport recently because she had been at the bar (which I almost did once too.. Thanks airport paging). So yes, I am more aware too of it, with a range of emotions. Sometimes I feel for them but I also remind myself that I dont know anything about what someone’s story is!June 21, 2017 at 4:05 am #4968754
I notice it all the time and it’s definitely envy for me.
With the people I know and where I live, binge drinking is normalized and people wear it as a badge of honor. It’s typical to hear one of my friends talk about playing 4 rounds of beer pong and getting trashed 2-3 times a week, or go out for dinner and get rounds of shots with their meal. It is weird hearing about all of their drunken nights though. Mostly I’m jealous, I really really wish I could go out and have fun a couple nights a week like them. I think I’m going to miss my drunken debauchery and fun for the rest my life. But unlike them I would wake up and instead of coffee would have a caffeinated beer, then keep it going until the next night.
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