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- October 27, 2016 at 5:19 pm #3740044
LawMamas thread is a good one and I don’t want to derail it… Keithj brought up the fear (and sex) inventory…
My experience with the fear inventory is limited, but sometimes I wonder… Let me (try to) explain.
I have lots of fear… huge change in my career this year. I worry frequently about the loss of independence… what if they want me to…. fill in the blank… This affects pride, independence, whatever. Also, I’m getting older, my kids are growing up and out… stuff like that
When I start going down these fears, I just turn it over and let God run it… Third step…
ESH for those willing to share please….October 27, 2016 at 5:58 pm #4782640
I just follow the directions, Mark. I review my fears thoroughly, I put them on paper, I ask myself why I have them. Wasn’t it because self-reliance failed us?
One tool I use for a fear inventory is to ‘boil down’ the root cause of that fear. Say I have a fear of losing my job. Why am I afraid of that? Well, it’s because I’ll be unable to support myself and my family. I’ll lose things I think are important. Now I’ve got two paths to look at. Unable to support means that others will suffer. Losing things means I’ll suffer. Now maybe a third path.
I’ll look bad. Why am I scared of looking bad? I’ll be unattractive. Why am I scared of being unattractive? I’ll be alone.
So, along one path, I’ve taken a fear of job security right down to the root fear of being alone. Why am I scared of being alone?
When I follow all of my fears down whatever path they take, they boil down to a small handful of root fears for which I don’t have a good reason for why I’m afraid.
Then I usually look at the 2nd Step proposition and ask if God is either everything or nothing. I also use the fear prayer given in Step 4.
Just kicking off the conversation. Let’s talk about sex instead.October 27, 2016 at 9:02 pm #4782651
I think my sponsor wants me to do the resentment inventory, the fear inventory, and the sex inventory?
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