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Making amends for a resentment?



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    jacque
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    @Cathy31 2653411 wrote:

    Please accept my apology (apology is not an amend but rather an entry to an amend)

    Yeah, okay….. that wasn’t TOO bad to say…..

    @Cathy31 2653411 wrote:

    How can I make it better?

    OMG! Does ANYONE find this one easy to say…….like……..ever?!

    lol…. still find myself having to swallow before I can get those words to come out of my mouth! lol



    #4567051

    Anonymous

    Theres nothing wrong with making an amend if there was no percieved harm done.

    Theres nothing wrong with confessing resentment and asking ” have I harmed you in any way”?

    We might find there was indeed harm.!



    #4567044

    Anonymous

    as long as confessing to a resentment they never new you had doesn’t harm them worse than not knowing.

    I confessed to wronging someone once. I talked behind her back. She didn’t know. The damage caused by the confession and request to make it right if possible exceeded the original damage by far.

    Amends are tricky. I still don’t have any sort of grasp on this step, but i did have that expereince.

    I guess from the recieving end of an amends, I know that i am more hurt when someone tells me they did something i don’t know about, or they felt some certain way (negatively) about me.

    I’m ok with others being human and having those feelings and making those mistakes…But i really don’t care to hear about it…why? so THEY can feel better…not the purpose of the step imo



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