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Scared to be honest on my 4th step.

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    Cross that bridge when the time comes. You know, God knows and you’re 2/3 of the way there.
    When the 5th step comes around go tell that part in the confessional at the catholic church. Nobody said it had to be your Sponsor. If you’re not Catholic ask here and someone will coach you on what to say.
    “Bless me Father for I have sinned. It has been 39 years since my last confession”



    I agree with Pinkcuda – you do not necessarily have to do your 5th Step with your sponsor, and you can break it up between people if that is what works for you. The critical things for me are to make sure I’m not splitting it up to continue a deception, but mainly to get anything I might drink over off my chest.



    @Jesse17 2501261 wrote:

    I came to AA not knowing how it worked, or what the steps were. All I knew was that AA is where people stop drinking, and I couldn’t do that by myself. I had proven that time and time again. And, I dearly wanted to stop drinking!

    Because of this I’ve heeded that line in ‘How It Works’ that says, “With all the earnestness at our command, we beg of you to be fearless and thorough from the very start.” and the one, “Half measures availed us nothing.” I’ve been thorough and honest in every aspect of AA and with my sponsor.

    Now I’m working on my 4th step, and I find myself panicked about telling my sponsor about one of my resentments. It’s one of those resentments that even though someone else hurt me, I’m so embarrassed and afraid someone will find out that I let it happen, I’ve never voiced it to ANYONE before.

    I find myself wanting to go to a different town and find someone I’ll never have to see again, to tell it to. But, I don’t think my sponsor will go for that. Heck, I don’t know if I am fearless enough to do that anyway.

    I really don’t know what to do. I know I should just tell my sponsor, but I don’t know what he’ll think of me afterwords, or if I could even face him afterwords.

    Please share if you had a similar problem. What did you do? How did it work out?

    do you trust him?

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