If your sponsor tends to to tell you what is right and what is wrong…is playing moral judge of your life…find a new one.
Agreed. I do not think she would judge, I just would rather not put that kind of info out there if not needed. (There is lots of stuff about other peoples inner life I would rather not know as well!) Thank you!
Hello there UniversesChild, and pleased to “meet” you 🙂
As I see it, the purpose of the 12 steps as a whole, and the 4th in particular, is to help me overcome my addiction to booze and have a life that is happy, joyous and free. That’s it. Nothing else. Whatever is outside of my addiction is refered to as an “outside issue” and suitable for discussion somewhere else. That’s also refered to as “singleness of purpose”.
Some people have used and abused relationships during their active alcoholism. For those folks there may be a need to include relationships in their recovery. Nevertheless, the _details_ of whom and what and where are not relevant. It’s the _why_ that matters in an inventory. From what you have shared, relationships are not a part of your addiction, so there is no point to include them.
What you can include, if you choose to do so, is that as part of your assets as a person, that make you worthy of having a life that is happy, joyous and free, is that you are an honest, righteous partner. You are commited, giving and loving. Those are very important virtues. Whatever character defects you may have, you are still a good person, and virtues as a partner are an example of that.