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Sponsor says I don’t believe I am an alcoholic

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    @keithj 2843883 wrote:

    Hmmm. I drank fairly normally for a number of years, and I can’t really relate to those guys who say they knew they were alcoholic from the first drink. Mine was more like the progression described by Bill W. Booze took on ever increasing importance in my life. Looking back, I always went a little too far, got a little too far out of control, but it wasn’t obvious at the time. I doubt I would have related to the phenomenon of craving back then.

    By the time I realized that I had to stop altogether, I was way past the point of being to stop on my own power.

    Me too Keith, me too. I honestly had no idea what was going on, until it was too late. Now, over 1 year sober, I’m just now starting to put together what happened and HOLY MOLY!




    I want to thank you for this thread… it is awesome and it was exactly what I needed to hear and to consider in my life today… There is some serious good recovery goin’ on here and you help us at least as much as we help you…




    I didn’t read where the sponsor said you weren’t an alcoholic. It seems she said you hadn’t gotten to step one…..your powerlessness and unmanagability hasn’t been accepted. Displays of control freak behavior are not indications one has surrendered. Conceded their powerlessness, proven to them by their unmanageability. Going on to other steps without coming to grips totally with step one is like building a house without a foundation. Nothing will hold together. We need a strong foundation to build from.

    The action in step one is surrender. Defeat. We gotta get step one right. The other eleven steps are a process. Here’s the key to the whole recovery thing. Miss this one, and you never get started on Twelve Step recovery – because you’ll try anything else instead, until you become convinced of your own personal powerlessness in the face of your addiction. And come to terms with everything that powerlessness applies to.

    Well I know good and well that when I drink, I can’t handle it. But, dammit that’s where I draw the line with powerlessness” Kind of a hard attitude to work with for a sponsor.

    Control is an issue for each and every one of us. We lost control. That is what got us here. Some of us refuse to surrender to that. We’re still defeated, we just won’t accept it. We flop and flounder, making noise and disturbing the peace. We are still every bit the tornado we were before we sobered up. Still creating damage where there was none, not only to ourselves, but to everyone around us. There is no going on to the other 11 steps until we come to terms with this. This surrender.

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