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- March 12, 2017 at 9:09 pm #4883792
Congradz Maryjan. You have to be a strong person to be able to look at yourself critically. You’re growing and I hope you find peace in step 5! : )
I am all ready to start my 4th step. I want to be sure I get everything out I can right now. DayTrader- multiple inventories makes sense- I am just starting my life sober so I may not even realize who I truly am without alcohol. I do not have a sponsor because I am leaving in 7 days to join the Army so this is my last step for a while. I think I am going to make my first inventory and then go over it with a sponsor in 6 months when I am done with training. Is there a worksheet or something in the Big Book? I didn’t see anything- I have the iPhone app which says it includes the whole book. Are there page numbers anyone could give me?March 13, 2017 at 1:18 am #4883783
Check out the chapter :How It Works”
Thank you for your coming military service
:hug:April 5, 2017 at 6:21 pm #4883784
I don’t understand how doing a fourth step about people or things you feel bad about has to turn into character defects about one’s self? I’ve had enough shame put on me in my life and I’m worried I’m going to be traumatized by more unnecessary shame by a sponser if I do and share my fourth step. I imagine this is something that gets all turned into bad things about me – even if I was a child? I remember my sponser said to me that I get to look at all the things I’ve done, but honestly, I wasn’t the kind of alcoholic who went around ripping people off, ruining my family, etc. etc. The person I most harmed was myself. But i can’t include myself on this list?
I also have have kind of worked through some resentments and don’t feel I have them most days. I have also made some amends to my parents already. So I guess just do the fourth step as I can do it with the few resentments I have and take it from there.
I mean no disrespect, but I feel that the basis of this program (and this step) was made for male alcoholics who needed to deal with ego issues and things they did while drinking. I mostly drank alone to quell bipolar mania or emotions.
Actually, I can think of som major resentments I had and the part I had in it so I will just do this. It’s just that some days I don’t feel resentful at all.
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