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- December 3, 2016 at 4:51 am #4807366
@SJTChiSox 2785429 wrote:
just got off the phone with my sponsor. He gave me a new assignment of having to call two additional people in the program a day and also him.
To be honest, I do not really want to do that but he has been doing it longer then I have. Problem is I have no idea of what really to say to them when I do call.
Sounds like you landed one helluva great sponsor!
He’ll probably fill you in but they don’t have to be long conversations. 5, 10, 15 minutes maybe. Part of the idea is that calling others gets you out of yourself – and selfishness / self-centeredness IS the root of our problem. Give this a try…..the day you’re really pissed off about something, or really nervous about something, or really worried about something…… call one of the guys up and see how’s they’re doing. Don’t say a word about yourself or your troubles….focus on them. I’ll betcha….10 minutes after you’ve hung the phone up, whatever trouble you had that was beating you up has diminished about 80%. It’s like magic – I swear.
As a society, we’ve been encouraged to talk about our problems to the point where it’s probably doing more harm than good. And let’s face it, anyone who’s self-centered just LOVES to talk about themselves. Listen closely when you’re at your next meeting to all the folks who drone on and on about themselves, their trials and tribulations. They dump their troubles on the table week after week after week……..yet never seem to get any better. I’ll bet their NOT making those “service calls” to other alkies…..they’re too busy focusing on themselves. It’s not a judgment but it’s an opportunity to learn…..especially what NOT to do.
–and I know what ya mean about how it’s hard to say no when you’re sponsor does the same thing, more of it, more often and has been doing it for longer. My sponsor speaks to 10 or 11 sponsees EVERY morning, 5days per week for about 10 – 15 minutes each and has 13 years sober…..HIS sponsor does about the same and has been doing it for 20+ years and HIS sponsor has been doing it for over 50 years. …….Who am I to balk at a fraction of that work? 😉December 3, 2016 at 4:05 pm #4807363
AnonymousAA BB 1st wrote:Our very lives, as ex-problem drinkers, depend upon our constant thought of others and how we may help meet their needs.
Not a day goes by that I don’t talk to other alcoholics in AA. I know it can be really difficult to pick that phone up at first, but it becomes easier with practice.December 3, 2016 at 8:56 pm #4807378
Thanks for the replies. I have already made the two calls. Just basically asked them what meetings they were going to. I understand what my sponsor is doing. Thing is I am in a sober living community so Its not like I am isolated all day. I will stick with him for awhile and switch if I have too. He is very intense and so far he makes me uncomfortable most of the time. I have other guys with lots of sobriety if I need too.
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