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- December 9, 2013 at 5:37 am #3684620
10. We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.December 17, 2013 at 3:01 am #3973581
I need Step 10 to keep me aware of my defects of character, as well as to help me be free of the wreckage I can cause today. The 10th Step helps me to solve problems or situations in my life, and as the literature states, “prevent their recurrence.” The point of this step is for me to be willing to take a good look at my thoughts, behavior and values, then work on what I need to change.
For me, This step is also about practice. I practice checking my ideas, my attitude and my behaviors on a daily basis so that I can keep what has worked for me thus far. Through daily practice, looking at me (and the part I play) begins to become second-nature and is done without much (if any) consideration.
It is suggested that in the beginning we can do a written inventory by listing what we’ve done wrong, or the harm we’ve caused others. It is also important that in doing a personal inventory we also take note of our assets because it is through this awareness we are allowed to see our growth. A personal or daily inventory is much like doing a 4th and 5th Step, but focusing only on today. As we get better (with practice), writing the inventory may not be necessary. For starters, doing NA’s IP#9 is also recommended.
Prior to coming into recovery, I was hardly ever able to admit I was wrong about anything. But today I’m able to draw on the humility gained through working the previous 9 steps in order to get honest about the wrongs I’ve done – especially on a day-to-day basis. Awareness, self-honesty, humility, open-mindedness and willingness are essential for me to “promptly admit” my wrongdoing. And the hit for me is to simply admit my wrongs, not attempt to explain, rationalize or justify them. This also takes practice.
Step 10 is about forming a new habit of self-appraisal, and as our literature states, “We need to develop self-discipline: the more effort we put into doing so, the more we’ll find that working the Tenth Step will become as natural as breathing.”
Self-discipline, self-appraisal, and self-awareness are all fairly new concepts for me, even with almost 5 years clean. Yet, it’s through practicing these principles that I am better able to tell others “I’m sorry,” when I’ve done them wrong. I need to continue to practice Step 10 in order to maintain my recovery and keep my house in order.
(reprinted from the NA newsletter, “Inside The Rooms” – January, 2004)May 5, 2015 at 7:28 pm #3973594
I am starting step 10 and am wondering every day how I may have missed something that needs to be paid attention to.
It is for this reason that I start my step 10. I also add to my gratitude list to help remind me of all that I have and could have taken away if I don’t take an inventory of myself nightly.
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