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- May 1, 2015 at 2:59 pm #4471545
“Have you ever seen someone who’s got a long time sober, but not a clue how to work steps? It’s hard because they think they know something and are entitled to something. They won’t move and you can’t teach them nothing. Unfortunately, some of them drink. We had one that did, after 20 years, he came back in teachable, and has been sober and on fire ever since.”
What baffles me sometimes is when I hear someone with time away from a drink say “I know it works, but I don’t know how it works.” I don’t know if it comes from a place of false modesty, but there is a whole chapter called “How It works,” which lays out the mechanics and the concept of how it works. “This is the how and why of it. First of all we had to quit playing God. It doesn’t work.” How: “Hereafter in this drama of life, God is going to be the director. He is the principal and we are the agents. He is The Father and we are His Children.” Sometimes in meetings they read the first portion of Chapter Five, “How It Works.” And then someone will read the short form of the traditions and begin with “This is why it works.” No, the why of it is that playing God doesn’t work.
It is my responsibility to know how it works. In fact, I’m rather useless in Alcoholics Anonymous if I don’t know how it works.
JimMay 1, 2015 at 3:30 pm #4471548
“Sometimes it is wise to wait till he goes on a binge…Then let his family or a friend ask him if he wants to quit for good and if he wants to go to any extreme to do so… If he says yes, then his attention should be drawn to you as a person who has recovered.”
I hear you Jim. In our meeting we do all the steps and we do them yearly. About everytime we agree to do the work again, there’s always a few people who are eager to get started again and some that fight it. Some get their 4th steps done early and it really encourages me to get going because these people need someone to 5th step with and that might be me. I don’t like being pushed to finish a step, but I get envious and just somehow inspired to do something when I see others doing it and getting it done. Not only that, but we have something in common to share about; a recent experience. When we have people new to our group come in to check out our meetings, they love to share on whatever step we’re on as they have no problem reciting a one-time experience from the past. But when they see that week in and week out, we share on all 12 steps thoughout the year and not just steps 1, 2, and 3, they don’t seem to want to be on board. It’s a challenging format, no doubt. I really think we all benefit from hearing other people share their successes and failures in life through these steps.
We read How It Works at every meeting, but I’ve been to meetings where they read out of “More about Alcoholism” and that’s very powerful.May 1, 2015 at 4:03 pm #4471547
The sad truth is that if you want to hide something from a member of AA just put it in the Big Book, many will never find the answer.
It works-it really does.
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