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- November 1, 2016 at 6:12 pm #4786149
I guess it’s possible too…….but like has been said, not advisable.
You “could” train for the Olympics with some notes on how ppl did it…..and it might work…but your odds go up significantly with a trainer who has some experience.
You “could” repair a car engine with a shop manual…but you’d be better off with a mechanic standing behind you giving you some pointers and sharing his experience.
You “could have” learn everything you learned in school had you just bought the books, did the work, and learned it on your own…..but……. do you really think you could have or would have???
–WILL you…..that’s really the operative question here. Is it possible……sure….just about anything’s possible. But will you and is it likely…? – only you can answer that. I’d suggest you look back at your recent 5 or 10 years of actual real life experience and judge for yourself how able you are to DO all the things you’ve set out to do. There are likely a lot of good plans and noble intentions over those years…..how successful were you in summoning up the power to do them? For me, I found (as did all of us in AA) that lack of power was the problem. Good intentions and good ideas came in spades…..I just couldn’t seem to carry them out. I needed some power…..some help. Initially in recovery, the group, my therapist, and my sponsor were vital for me to lean on. Now, I’m in the process of taking the weight off their shoulders and putting it on God’s…. I can say for sure that, looking back, I could never have gotten sober nor to where I am now without a lot of personal help and personal interaction in my life.
I know one person who kinda/sorta did it on their own but I also know probably a couple hundred who tried it and failed…..and continued to lose…and whose lives got FAR worse in the process……..until they finally surrendered and quit trying to run their own lives. – they internalized the 2nd half of the first step: they admitted that their lives were unmanageable.November 2, 2016 at 2:23 am #4786151
Going to meetings and working the Steps with a sponsor may, in fact, reduce your anxiety and panic. It might be a problem in the VERY beginning (most of us are anxious and scared when we first go to meetings), but after a few we start to know the people, and it becomes a safe and comfortable place.
Back in the earliest days of AA, people did get sober on their own, and work the Steps, alone using the Big Book. There are also “loners”–members in isolated areas or duty assignments who have had to do the same. Still, AA is a fellowship, and is founded on the idea of one alcoholic helping another. If you skip on that, you are, as DayTrader suggested, making it unnecessarily difficult for yourself. Getting the benefit of the experience, strength, and hope of others is what you get out of the deal.November 2, 2016 at 3:11 am #4786154
you all are right.
Im just so nervous about it.
Its far too big a task to do alone.
I have few close friends, and my friend today laughed when I told her of my rather sad antics on the drink at the weekend that made my final mind up.
Why oh why do people think its funny to be so out of control?
My only thought was that she perhaps does not want to recognise how destructive alcohol is, as she likes a daily drink herself, i don’t know, i have so much to learn.
there is a meeting in my town on thursday night, and i will go. hey, its not a firing squad! i might make some new and above all sober new aquaintances eh?
It is incredibly daunting a radical change to make and truly decide to do, i know it is the right one for me, as for all of us on here i guess.
excuse the spelling the hour is late.
got arm ache playing ma jong.
thank you all for your replies.
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