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    There are meetings at 110 South High Street (Sunday at 7pm; Wednesday and Friday at 8pm). If strongly encourage you to be honest with your husband and get to the meetings if you find thoughts of using don’t go away — even if it means traveling a little distance to get there. Where I live, the closest place to get gas is fifteen minutes away. We frequently drive an hour or more one way for meetings — because it is, quite literally, a matter of life and death.

    Peace & Love,



    @nurse247 2589361 wrote:

    Sugah: Thank you for the advice. I checked with NA and there aren’t any meetings close to where I live so I am going to try to do this using the tools I learn here. I am not sure what I am really. I started using Vicodin when I had the first of my 4 back surgeries and during chemo. I haven’t ever really not used this med. I KNOW that i dont need it. I am sick of worrying whether I am going to have enough to get me through to the next month etc. But I am so scared of the withdrawing symptoms. I am off work until Monday which is a blessing! One of the hardest things that Iam going to have to do is be honest with my husband. He has no idea that I still take these pain meds. Scared to do that too. Thanks for any help!

    I’d suggest making a plan for getting off them, and another plan for staying off. I’d also suggest telling your husband, (he’ll likely find out anyway, if he doesn’t already know, and then it will be worse between you two)

    But telling him of the problem, and the plans lets him be part of it, and keeps you from doing it alone. It’s very hard to do it alone and isolated, not too mention we then only have our own heads to think about it, and our thinking by this time, is just not at all healthy.

    Hot baths or showers will help you feel better, and moving around like walking as much as you feel you can tolerate. The first 3,4,5 days are usually the worst, then it all gets easier to handle. Usually.

    Unfortunately, there is no fast, easy way out of it, but it can be done.

    Post as often as you want here as well, because again, not feeling alone helps too.



    You have admitted you are an addict and cannot manage your life, yes?
    You ask for help, and then after one response you decide that you are going to go it alone using this site as your support group. How did you suddenly come to know what’s best for you?

    This is not a problem you can “attack” There is no “struggle”. Your admission of a problem is but the beginning of a lifelong process of surrender. Stop fighting. You will lose every time!

    When I lie to you, I separate myself from you and God. I cannot reach you, nor you me in any meaningful way. You have separated yourself from your husband through this lie of omission, and look what it’s doing to you! This separation is at the heart of our addiction. We humans need to be in relationship with others, and our mendacity keeps us apart. That makes us uncomfortable, and we seek out something to give us comfort.

    “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation” — Thoreau —

    The hallmark of any addict is to avoid pain or even discomfort at any cost. You absolutely need to check into a detox center to get the physical part dealt with as soon as possible. Is this uncomfortable? Yes. But it’s not nearly as uncomfortable, or dangerous as withdrawing on your own.

    This will of course require you to tell your husband. Is this uncomfortable? Yes, but he will find out anyway as this disease progresses, and if you don’t tell him you deny him the opportunity to be of help. You will deny him the opportunity to be your husband, with all the anger and frustration, sympathy, empathy, understanding and grief — in a word, love– that that entails.

    Get thee to detox and then get to work.

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