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- December 20, 2013 at 8:54 am #4190093
Relinquishing Old Ideas
“If at first you don’t succeed, chances are you just don’t understand the situation.” Anonymous.
Suppose you suddenly found yourself transported to an alien land. One where you not only couldn’t speak the language of the natives, but where you also were totally unfamiliar with their customs. You’d be hard-pressed to explain your needs. And you’d be fearful that they might interpret some of your actions as hostile. That could create unpleasant consequences.
It’s much the same with our recognition and consequent confusion about the fact that we’re “out of sync” with the world we live in. We’re like the blind men and the elephant: Our impression of the shape of things doesn’t give with what others perceive. And yet, there is truth and validity in all our perceptions.
This is what makes it doubly hard for us to relinquish our own point of view. We see its validity and cling stubbornly to our position when, clearly, it is not working for us. There is an example in the Big Book of a man who persisted in skipping out in front of fast-moving vehicles. First, he had a series of minor accidents. But these were followed by more serious accidents until, finally, he broke both legs. He persisted in this self-defeating behavior the way many of us persist in our determination that, “This time it will be different.” So long as we cling to these old ideas, we remain powerless.
Today’s Step: I readily release ideas that no longer work for me.
Step by Step. Muriel ZinkDecember 21, 2013 at 9:14 am #4190101
Sabotage: How to do it
“Happiness is not a state to arrive at, but a manner of traveling.” Margaret Lee Runbeck
Despite our admission of personal powerlessness, as we work Step One, many of us continue to rebel at the fact that we are unable to effect recovery by our own efforts. We see meetings as unneccessary. We have no intention of affilitiating ourselves with a group, and we generally balk at being told what we have to do.
This is when we come face-to-face with the fact that what we do have is the power to continue to make ourselves miserable. And here’s the way we do it:
* Seeing ourselves as victims of outrageous fortune.
* Feeling we’ve fallen prey to Murphy’s law: “If anything can possibly go wrong—it will.”
* Doing unto others before they do unto us, because we know they’re out to get us.
* Denying that any power could be greater than ourselves.
* Living for ourselves alone, because no one else is interested in our well-bding.
* Keeping a distance between ourselves and others so they won’t find our vulnerable points.
* Taking an inventory of the failings of others, and pointing out their deficiencies to them.
* Refusing help to people, because if we “give them an inch, they’ll take a mile.”
* Dwelling on the inequities that bestow money and power on those far less deserving than we.
* Feeling sorry for ourselves.
Today’s Step: I face my current situation squarely and without blame.
Step by Step. Muriel Zink
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