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- December 16, 2013 at 7:34 pm #4190174
Humor as a tool
“Humor is an affirmation of dignity, a declaration of man’s superiority to all that befalls him.” Roman Gary
Of the many jokes concerning the plethora of anonymous groups, one is about an imaginary fellowship called Bachelors Anonymous. When a member finds himiself leaning toward matrimony, he calls his sponsor who brings over a woman who has her hair in curlers and is wearing a dirty bathrobe, no makeup, and beat-up bunny slippers. This immediately cures the bachelor’s desire to get married.
Sponsorship evolved to offer new members of self-help groups the support of a friend who’s been there before, someone who has a successful track record for maintaining an addiction-free lifestyle. The majority of the groups we discussed in our preface follow this same practice, simply because it has proven to be of such value.
The more we uncover our past addictions, the more we discover the absurdity of our present attitudes. As we make these discoveries, humor becomes a valuable tool in allowing us to temper self-judgement. IF we assume that being clean and sober means living our lives somberly, foregoing all frivolous, enjoyable and spontaneous behavior, the price is simply not worth the effort. Although our undertaking is a serious one, it’s not necessary that we approach it in a manner of “gloom and doom.”
Today’s Step: I get glimpses of sanity when I can laugh at myself.
Step by Step. Muriel ZinkDecember 18, 2013 at 9:21 pm #4190169
Growing into ourselves.
“We need to see ourselves as basic miracles and worthy of love.” Virginia Satir
Growth in recovery depends largely upon our willingness to replace many of our previous opinions and attitudes with a new set of ideas. We need new goals—ones that offer healthy ways of living, reacting and behaving; goals that enable us to interact more effectively with the significant others in our lives. We want to learn how to live our lives in ways that make a difference—-not only to ourselves but also to the many others with whom we come in contact.
As little children we found it was not possible to shape our lives against the dictates of grown-ups. Very early we developed a feeling that haunted our formative years and followed us into adulthood. This feeling was one of personal powerlessness.
However, once we understand that this root feeling is an old tape we play over and over to our innermost selves, we can begin to open up to a power above and beyond us that has the potential to help us reshape our lives.
Today we see ourselves as mature human beings, capable of making decisions and changes in our lives that are based on faith and trust in a benign entity. Whether we call it cosmic consciousness, the law of cause and effect, Higher Power, karma, or whatever, this energy larger than ourselves contains the seeds of our growth.
Today’s Step: I am open to the energy of my Higher Power.
Step by Step. Muriel ZinkDecember 19, 2013 at 8:43 am #4190168
“The coming to consciousness is not a discovery of some new thing; it is a long and painful return to that which has always been. It is when we admit our powerlessness that the guide appears.” Helen M. Luke.
An article in a national magazine told of a young woman who had abstained from drinking for a number of months, but who was fearful that an active socila life might bring her full circle back to her old drinking patterns. Consequently, she holed up in her apartment, refusing to go to A.A. meetings because she had an aversion to joining a “cult”.
She spent her evenings at her home computer, logging on to various electronic bulletin boards late at night. Through a modem—a phone hookup—she began accessing the electronic meeting places where hackers all over the country share tips and small talk. One night she discovered a bulletin board titled, “Alcoholics Anonymouse.” Night after night she logged on to the A.A. menu and read the messages from other recovering alcoholics, without typing in any personal input. Finally, she entered some of her own concerns, fears, and problems. After six weeks, she gave in to the invitation of one of her fellow users whose message read: “Sobriety doesn’t have to be white-knuckled. Why not let me take you to a meeting?”
She went with him and found herself in an atmosphere of love and support. “If I hadn’t logged on,” she said, “I’m sure I never would have gotten to a meeting.”
Today’s Step: My Higher Power finds me, wherever I am.
Step by Step. Muriel Zink
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