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Written 10th step? Join me?



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    Anonymous

    ps
    my sponsor points out to me that step 11 is the “when I retire at night step” and he calls step 10,the walking around step …he is such a stickler..he used to call me and ask
    how are you doing on “when we retire”?



    #4888425

    jacque
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    I’ll give you guys an idea of what I meant above (here’s today’s…… so far 😉 )

    1. Was I resentful? Yep – thought about that rude sob from the meeting Tuesday night…..about what I’ll say to him next week & about how the conversation might go. – another “old” thought that I gave “safe harbor” to in my head.

    2. Selfish? Yep. Didn’t take my mom’s call…even though I could have – just didn’t feel like talking to her.

    3. Dishonest? Yep – didn’t give work my best today….yet, you can bet your bottom dollar I expect a FULL paycheck on payday

    4. Afraid? Yep – didn’t call a couple clients that I know I need to speak to because I was afraid they’d reject my suggestions. Also, didn’t trust God in a couple instances because I didn’t believe He’d take care of a situation.

    5. Do I owe an apology? Yep – to God, mostly…. and to my mom for not answering and/or calling back sooner. Also to my employer. — perhaps the better word would be amend.

    6. Have I kept something to myself which should be discussed with another person at once? Yep…but I speak to my sponsor every AM. I’ll tell him tomorrow

    7. Was I kind and loving toward all? Nope – already mentioned my mom…didn’t take her call. Wasn’t exactly kind and loving to not put in a full day’s work and give it my best effort either (wasn’t kind to myself, to God – for the gifts He’s given me nor to my employer)

    8. What could I have done better? Could have trusted God. Could have not tried…..again…..to rely upon self. Could have done a better job with my “conscious contact” with God today.

    9.Was I thinking of myself most of the time? Not in my mind….but my actions would indicate it wasn’t anywhere near “free of self” today.

    10. Or was I thinking of what I could do for others, what I could pack into the mainstream of life? kinda/sorta….but this stuff got trumped by some selfishness and self-centeredness.

    …..don’t get me wrong. Today was a pretty good day for me. Compared to how they used to be, today was a GREAT day actually. I do a lot of writing and a lot of inventorying……and one of the “downsides” is that you discover more and more of your truth…..which, in turn, makes it easier to see shortcomings……which in turn reinforces my need for God – there’s just no way for me to get it all right for a day – I still need lots of God’s help.

    🙂



    #4888422

    Anonymous

    @dbearw 2888939 wrote:

    I apologize if this is already going on somewhere… but I thought it would be beneficial to start a daily written 10th step here. Maybe it’ll help me with accountability. 🙂

    So here goes… I probably won’t post the whole outline each time but I thought it might help to get started…

    10th Step Guidelines

    It’s a good idea to start with a prayer. For example:

    “God, please help me review my day. Please grant me the willingness to see what you would have me see, in the light you would have me see it: free from morbid reflection, fear, obsessive guilt, and dishonesty.”

    The following guide is drawn verbatim from Alcoholics Anonymous (pp. 84-86):

    1. Was I resentful? No

    2. Selfish? A little- I’m recovering from an injury and have to take care of myself right now. Don’t feel that it was a problem for anyone though.

    3. Dishonest? No

    4. Afraid? No

    5. Do I owe an apology?No

    6. Have I kept something to myself which should be discussed with another person at once?No

    7. Was I kind and loving toward all? I guess. 🙂

    8. What could I have done better? Not had a bunch of girl scout cookies. But seriously, I did pretty well today. I guess I could have made some calls.

    9.Was I thinking of myself most of the time? yes- again, recovering from an injury.

    10. Or was I thinking of what I could do for others, what I could pack into the mainstream of life? SAA

    11. After making our review we ask God’s forgiveness and inquire what corrective measures should be taken.

    At all times we continue to watch for selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear. When these crop up we:

    1. Ask God at once to remove them.

    2. We discuss them with someone immediately.

    3. And make amends quickly if we have harmed anyone.

    4. Then we resolutely turn our thoughts to someone we can help.

    I got the list from:
    10th Step Guidelines

    I also like to add the positive things I did for the day.

    Got some much needed rest which is good for the healing.
    Took my daughter to sell her Girl Scout cookies.
    Made food for the week.
    Spent the day with my family.

    this is step 11…..



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